Broken families are hard to mend, and some wounds never heal. We all like to think that these kinds of problems won’t affect our lives-they’re things that happen to other people who aren’t as cool as us-and then suddenly the whole world seems to turn upside down. What happened? How did it all go wrong? Every story is going to be a bit different, but the one thing that strings most of them together is that when the final blow to the marriage really does fall, it’s nearly always an incredible shock to the system.
Most people are going to care about their children after the marriage ends, and they’re going to have all kinds of fears and concerns about what’s going to happen in the months following the divorce.
Taking care of the children is an instinctive and important priority for the majority of parents. Of course there are some people who are not as caring and maybe even neglectful of the proper care of their children. While the laws are meant to make sure that there is fairness for everyone in a family following a divorce, it can sometimes happen that mistakes are made and the outcomes are unfair in many ways.
According to prominent child support lawyers, Carlsbad based Fischer & Van Thiel, you need to get legal assistance at every stage of a divorce, and get it as early as possible. There simply is too much at stake for you to leave anything to chance.
There are two primary concerns for non-custodial parents following a divorce, which are:
- Being certain that the child support payments they are required to pay are fairly calculated and appropriate for their circumstances, and
- Being certain that any children in the custody of the other parent are properly provided for and that they are given adequate care
After the divorce, a lawyer can help with these matters. At the very least, they can take steps to check into things for you. One of the possible problems with the law is that courts will normally, in the absence of strong evidence to the contrary, believe that it is in the best interest of children to remain in the custody of their mothers. Custody can be important, because the non-custodial parent will have to make child support payments to the custodial parent.
In addition to this, when mothers obtain restraining orders against their husbands, it can be almost impossible for the husband to obtain joint custody. These circumstances have given rise to unfortunate evolutionary behaviors such as paternity fraud and malicious filing of restraining order complaints. As a consequence, thousands of men have been stuck paying child support for kids that are not theirs and that they have never met, while others have found themselves cut off from children they have helped to raise and love dearly.
Whatever situation you have found yourself in as a result of divorce, it’s important to get a lawyer’s help if you’re being treated unfairly or if you have any concerns about the care and well-being of your children. Help is possible, and the sooner you take action, the better the chances.